How to Let Someone Down Gently

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Choose an appropriate time and place.. Take responsibility yourself.. Be open and direct about your feelings.

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1

Choose an appropriate time and place.

Step 1

Choose an appropriate time and place.

2

Take responsibility yourself.

Step 2

Take responsibility yourself.

3

Be open and direct about your feelings.

Step 3

Be open and direct about your feelings.

4

Keep it short.

Step 4

Keep it short.

5

Offer friendship, if you're able.

Step 5

Offer friendship, if you're able.

6

Speak without cliches.

Step 6

Speak without cliches.

7

Do not place blame.

Step 7

Do not place blame.

8

Avoid social media in the direct aftermath.

Step 8

Avoid social media in the direct aftermath.

9

Focus on the good times.

Step 9

Focus on the good times.

10

Be upfront about lessening contact.

Step 10

Be upfront about lessening contact.

11

Act civil after the breakup.

Step 11

Act civil after the breakup.

12

Resist thinking of your ex as your one true love.

Step 12

Resist thinking of your ex as your one true love.

13

Are you sure that you want to end the relationship?

Step 13

Are you sure that you want to end the relationship?

14

Are you trying to break contact completely, or just return to friendship?

Step 14

Are you trying to break contact completely, or just return to friendship?

15

Is your relationship in a lull, or fatally flawed?

Step 15

Is your relationship in a lull, or fatally flawed?

16

Would a quick, clean break up be better for everyone?

Step 16

Would a quick, clean break up be better for everyone?

17

What can you do instead of a gentle let down?

Step 17

What can you do instead of a gentle let down?

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