13.9 I-Statements – Owning your Voice
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I-Statements – Owning Your Story
One way to effectively manage conflict is to own your story and your voice by using I-statements. Statements that directly express your thoughts, needs, feelings, and experiences to the people around you. I-statements allow us to take responsibilities for our experiences and places the power of our lives in our hands. I-statements look like this:
- I feel…
- I think…
- I experienced it like this…
- I want…
- I need…
I-statements are contrasted with You-statements. Statements that imply the other person is responsible for something. You-statements typically blame on the other person. You statements look like this:
- You made me feel…
- You don’t care about me.
- You never think about how that would impact us.