20 A word about marriage
We’d like to talk about marriage as a subset of all romantic and love relationships. And we’d like to ask you, the reader, to think about the role of marriage in society.
Here are a set of statements about the role of marriage in the United States.
- Marriage is a social construction; something that people have agreed is a unit of importance that has changed in meaning and function over time and location.
- Marriage is a status symbol; even though people are marrying less it is still important.
- Marriage is an institution that serves a critical function in society.
- People marry for so many reasons and in differing ways that it is difficult to say what it means or why people marry.
Do you agree with some of these statements? Which ones and why? If you wrote your own statement about marriage and society and what would it say?
Each of these statements resonates with one of the perspectives that has been presented in this text. The first one represents the central idea of this text; that many familial operations and structures are social constructions that we have defined as a society and that have changed over time and could change some more. The other three statements each reflect one of the theories described in the Theories and Dispositions Chapter.
Table 5.1. is an excerpt from the table you first saw in Studying Families. Can you match statements 2, 3, and 4 to the theory it represents? Can you create a statement about marriage that represents the theory that you find most compelling?
Theory |
Major Principles |
| Conflict | Opposition, power, and conflict within the family and society are needed for society to develop and change |
| Ecological Systems | Individuals are part of a group of concentric systems that impact their development and growth. |
| Exchange (aka Social Exchange) | Individuals have different strengths, resources and weaknesses and enter into relationships via the evaluation of benefits and costs. |
| Feminism (aka Feminist) | Society is structured in a way that privileges men over women; the theory works to understand and to transform inequalities. |
| Functionalism | Social institutions function together in order to meet individual and group needs. |
| Hierarchy of Needs | Individuals meet one set of needs first in order to be motivated and able to achieve other needs. |
| Life Course | Significant social and historical events shape the trajectories of birth cohorts and the individuals in them. |
| Postmodern (aka Modernity) | Choice and individuality are emphasized in the postmodern era. Humans are able to act in the way they choose with society and within institutions. |
| Symbolic Interaction | This theory focuses on the changing nature of symbols and the ways we interact with one another based on those symbols. Humans see themselves through the eyes of others and this affects the roles they play. |
The author of the text used previously in this class, Andrew Cherlin,[1] is an expert in marria